(even exempted from a college a course in my high school studies). So, when I went to university, at the University of North Carolina in Chapel Hill, I naturally went into psychology as my major. Unfortunately, the department was much more research oriented and I wanted to study more existential, experiential psychology. My 3rd year, I took some classes in anthropology and sociology that really intrigued me. However, I felt that I was being taught the material in a very “Western” perspective. I called it the 90 degrees of a field of World View And, through my recent studies, I knew there were people that had a different 90 degrees for their field of a World View; and I wanted to look at the world, my world vision, with 180 degrees!
After my 3rd year, I took a year off in search of this difference – I went to India for almost 6 months! This was India before cell phones and modern technology in that country. Everything was done manually and people’s World View was not much affected by outside influences. At the same time, I was being introduced to Hinduism and Buddhism. These ways of thinking resonated to many with my own thoughts and journal entries.
I had found my other 90 degrees!
This was India before technology or cellphones where everything was done by paper and people’s world outlooks weren’t more much more effective than local activities and perhaps the newspaper; There this usually wasn’t a source as 90% or more of the country was illiterate at the same time I was being introduced to Hinduism and Buddhism which I related to already having similar pass journal entries that very much match this non religious philosophies of looking at life in a different way… in all of this I found my other 90 degrees.
Returning to my studies I had accumulated a year's worth of electives in any subject and decided to take them in the religious studies department. Nearby Duke University had a divinity school dealing with issues of whether God exists or not. The religious studies department at UNC was interesting because the idea of the existence of God was never really discussed. But rather how people react to that idea which is reflected in their World View-- much more anthropological and sociological oriented. Taking all my electives in this department resulted in having enough credits to complete my bachelors degree in both psychology and religious studies. Now what!? What to do with a double in psychology and religious studies!? I became a chef!
The next 30 plus years I cooked in France, NYC and helped open restaurants back in North Carolina eventually ending up in Washington DC for 15 years. I started here for the longest time in one place and after my 50th birthday and being a bit stagnant for too long, I went to Israel through some connections back in DC. Here I felt an almost spiritual connection to the land and the people I met. Something spoke to me in ways I hadn’t felt for a long time.
Then COVID hit the world!
Being single I spent a lot of time in quarantine entertaining myself online. I saw multiple ads about RTT ( Rapid Transformation Therapy ). It seemed to resonate and I was curious to explore it more. Marissa Peer had developed this therapy, RTT, and was offering a year-long course teaching the method. I decided to look up a therapist on their site wanting to further talk to someone about it that had finished the training. Ray turned out to be a gracious man in London and was happy to spend over an hour answering any of my questions. Now it was time for me to see the “proof in the pudding.” I chose smoking as my presenting problem. I went in with an open mind and Ray skillfully guided me through an introduction RTT, the actual session and the follow up. It was an intense experience. I don’t remember talking much about smoking in my session. Rather my mind discussed what was really the cause of my problem. By that night I
couldn’t smoke. I
couldn't, meaning I tried to smoke “out of habit” and found that I took one puff and didn’t know what to do except to put it out! It would take me six times to try and smoke one cigarette! After a while I quit even trying to smoke and became truly a non-smoker. Not just someone who doesn’t smoke anymore, but a non-smokers. The idea of smoking wasn’t even on my radar–I don’t think non-smokers wake each day vowing not to smoke for one more day, they just don’t think about it or even want to smoke even if they are around other smokers. But more importantly, my session took me to places that I hadn’t been or remembered. The change in my self esteem and my sense of
being had changed dramatically. It was very strange. Ray helped me to be patient as the unfaliar became my new familiar. Somehow all those years that I’d smoked was connected somehow with something deeper that was affecting my self esteem. With the smoking being taken out of the equation, something much more significant collapsed. And now 1 ½ years later I still feel the same about my self esteem and have still not had a cigarette. I can also proudly say I have finished the RTT course! I truly feel that if I could help others and do even a third of what Ray was able to do with this method for me, I had found a new purpose to contribute to the world.
Interestingly, my mom and I were discussing the course and she mentioned that it sounded very much like my studies from the time in my university.
My world had come full circle and in ways I couldn’t have imagined over the last 30 years. Here is what I was going to do with that double degree in psychology and religious studies. It was time to put being a professional chef aside and start this new direction; new purpose in life. In Judaism, we have a philosophy that one should leave this earthly experience having made a little difference in the world;
what is called tikkun olam-- healing the world.
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